Q&A with Jacob Pruitt: LGBTQ+ Discussion

The following is a written account of an interview exchange I had with a member of the LGBT community, Jacob Pruitt. In the midst of a culture that seeks to cancel anyone with an opinion that differs from what main stream media or news outlet say, Jacob and I wanted to show that it‘s possible to have different views and remain civil when those views are brought up in discussion.

Jacob is a gay man in whom I love dearly. I am thankful we were able to have this discussion with one another. It is possible to love despite differences. It is possible to love instead of acting on fear. It’s important that our society doesn’t cancel out of fear but rather sit down and learn to discuss with respect regardless of where you stand on certain issues.

I hope you enjoy the mutual respect Jacob and I have for one another.

Ciara:

Hey! So obviously I know you, but for the reader would you like to introduce yourself and a couple of fun facts about you? 3 fun facts! 3 is a good number.

Jacob:

Hello! I’m Jacob, I’m 23 from Carrollton, Georgia! Fun fact 1: I am a drag queen! Fun fact 2: I play the piano! Fun fact 3: The number 3 is my favorite number!

Ciara:

See, I knew I picked the number 3 for a reason. We had a wavelength going on there!

Jacob:

Well we have had a long time to build this psychic connection!

Ciara:

So Jay, the main thing I wanted to focus on concerning this interview was you being a member of the LGBTQ+ community! What would you identify as within the LGBT community and when did you first come out as being part of the community?

Jacob:

I have been a member of the LGBTQ+ community my entire life. I never really had to come out because I was never in. As long as I could remember I have been a gay man!

Ciara:

I see! I know that you are a Christian but for the reader who doesn’t know, how old were you when you became a believer of the Christian faith?

Jacob:

That’s another thing I have been my entire life. I grew up hearing and believing in the word. There was a time in high school when I felt abandoned by my family and exiled from the Christian community. I started researching in other religions and in fact participated in Wicca. However, the entire time I knew I was wrong in what I was doing and came back to the Lord every time I would practice Wicca. I tried to fight my spirituality but just couldn’t stay away from my Savior!

Ciara:

Wow, that’s crazy! I’m sure there is a really powerful story during that time of how God revealed Himself to you! So awesome!

While you grew up being a gay man and also a believer, did you ever struggle with the stance majority of Christians took in regards to homosexuality and it being a sin? If so, what was that process like for you and how did you work through it?

Jacob:

That’s a hard question to answer. Not because I don’t know, but because it hurts to answer. I have and still do feel personally that I am not sinning. I trust in God and I believe in Him. I believe He has made no mistake. With that being said, I did receive a lot of hate and rejection from the Christian community. Specifically my extended family. Most of the time they didn’t even acknowledge the fact that they were hurting me and pushing me away. It was a very hard thing to live with. Honestly, the only thing I can say is that God is the reason I’m still here. There were many nights I was hurt so bad that I would self harm or beg God to deliver me. When I learned to love the people who were hurting me, that’s when I felt delivered.

Ciara:

I know many individuals who feel the same way as you. Individuals who identify and represent many faucets of the LGBT community and are also Christians and believe Jesus is their Savior! With that said, when you heard that I was leaving the LGBT community or rather putting my same sex desires aside because I made the personal decision to believe it as contradicting to God’s Word, what was your thoughts?

What are your thoughts when you see anyone make that personal decision for themselves not just me?

Jacob:

If I’m being completely honest with you; I feel worried. I hope that you and everyone else is being true to themselves and not forcing themselves to like someone just because they believe they have to. If someone is homosexual and they believe it is a sin and force themselves to believe they are not; at that point they are lying also. As we all have heard many times before; 2 wrongs don’t make a right. However I am hopeful that the decision is what they truly want and not what they wish they wanted.

Ciara:

I definitely understand what you are saying! Since you are a believer, I was curious what the process was for you to decide the point in which your belief of homosexuality became who God created you to be rather than a temptation from the enemy to keep yourself from being who He called you to be? If that makes sense? What scriptures and foundation do you use to support what you feel?

Jacob:

Well there are a couple of passages in the Bible that are said to speak on same sex relations. I first want to say that these have been translated many times and it’s unclear what they were actually speaking about. However through the context, what I understood and took from it was actually addressing the exploitation of young men by older men (pederasty). We all say we know what God is telling us, but if we don’t like or agree with what another person is being told we immediately say it’s the devil speaking to them. I am very strong spiritually. I am a warrior. I practice my faith and believe in my Lord and Savior. I know the difference between God and Satan’s temptation. I am not tempted to love another man. I am tempted to smoke cigarettes and harm my body or drink until I black out. I fight those temptations everyday. What I don’t have to fight is my sexuality.

Ciara:

I’m glad that we can simply talk about this specific topic even if we sit across the aisle with our stance. Especially amongst cancel culture. I feel we are showing that we can disagree but yet still speak and treat each other with respect on the subject!

Jacob:

Absolutely. We are both allowed our opinions and allowed to disagree with the other. We are allowed that as humans. What we are not allowed to do is hate the other or try to force them to believe in something they do not!

Ciara:

Yes! Forcing someone to believe in something, from both stances, will do nothing but harm or destroy an individual. With that said, in response to your above text, I see what you’re saying, but from my position, what you see as temptation (cigarettes, alcohol) are not temptations for me, but rather my same sex desires are. So do you disagree with the idea that same sex desires could be looked upon as a temptation for certain individuals?

Jacob:

I’m honestly not sure. I feel like you’re made to believe it is a temptation of wrong doing. Maybe it’s a temptation of being honest. I can’t speak for you, I can only say to weigh the options.

Ciara:

What do you mean by temptation of being honest? I’m sorry I didn’t understand. My comprehension skills can be off severely at times.

Jacob:

Well maybe it’s a temptation to do the right thing. Maybe it’s not a temptation at all. Maybe it’s God telling you to be honest with yourself and live your truth.

Ciara:

Oh okay I understand now! I have several temptations, same sex desire has slowly made its way from the top to the bottom in terms of severity. I was part of the LGBT community and was in numerous relationships with women, but found myself not happy nor wanting to pursue that lifestyle in response to what I believed to be true based on scriptures and the conviction I eventually paid attention to in my Spirit. A particular verse in Romans has always stood out to me. Romans 1:26-27.

Some people have tried to raise debate that the original interpreters misunderstood the word “natural” in that scripture. Basically, their belief is that whatever intimate relationship you have is natural as long as it is natural to you. So if a same sex relationship seems natural to you, then what Paul was saying in Romans 1:26-27 doesn’t apply to you. However the word “natural” in that scripture is physis meaning God’s created order. So to act against nature would be to violate the order which God has established and to act according to nature would mean to be in agreement with the intention of the Creator, in our case and belief that would be God (our creator). So the intention of the Creator or physis “God’s created order” is only defined by the creator and He gets to define what is/isn’t natural and not the creation itself. In this case, God makes known what His natural order is to be in Genesis with Adam and Eve when He laid down the blueprint of relationships within covenant and continued to use the man/woman illustration of relationship covenant all throughout scripture.

So I say all that to shed light on my perspective of how I arrived at my own personal conviction when walking away from my same sex desires. Although they’re many different reasons, that is just one in particular.

Jacob:

That is one way to view it, and I could easily go into the debate saying Leviticus has rules that contradict the Ten Commandments and some that are no longer in practice and I’m sure you could say something to respond to that and we could keep going. The fact of the matter is; we are happy and we love each other. That is truly all we need in the physical plan.

Ciara:

And I definitely love you! I think at the end of the day everyone is going to face temptations of many kinds. What is a temptation for you, may not be a temptation for me and vice versa! When we choose to seek God on these temptations and apply them in light of His Word, He is going to make our paths straight and give us direction. That’s what it all boils down to! I truly appreciate you taking the time to do this “formal” interview. Do you have any last thoughts you would like to share?

Jacob:

Absolutely and thank you so much for having me! Remember to love each other and yourself! Spread kindness! Ciara:

Amen and amen!

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