Dear Asher

I recently read an article where a parent wrote “the ultimate goal of a parent is to see your children grow up to be happy” and although I want to see you live a life full of happiness, that isn’t my ultimate goal when raising you. I want you to be happy, but I want to raise you to endure even more. When the going gets tough and life isn’t roses and daises, I want you to know how to endure when suffering comes. Life is going to throw you fastballs, but I want to teach you how to anticipate the curve.

I want to tell you that life will always be easy, but reality is... that’s not true. There will be days where you are most certainly on the mountaintop, but you will find yourself down in the valley too. Your father and I don’t want to raise you to believe that beauty is only experienced from the view up top. Although the valley is much more difficult to walk through, the view can be just as stunning given the right perspective. When you’re in the valley of life, we want you to know that Jesus is always walking with you. While you walk through the hardships of this world, Jesus is molding you and shaping you into the man your father and I know you can be. A man full of love, compassion, kindness, and zeal. A man who doesn’t shy away from pain, but knows how to endure in order to elevate to the next level.

The view from the mountaintop is the reward for enduring the journey to get there. Anyone can jump on a helicopter and fly above, but the ones who make the climb, they have the greatest stories to share. Happiness is a beautiful thing to behold and experience, but life’s greatest character builders come from hardship, struggle, and everything in between. No one wishes for hardship, no one wishes for pain, but the human experience is filled with it. No one is exempt from pain, we all face it in one way or another. I wish I could take all the pain in the world for you, but I can’t. However, I know someone who endured all the pain in the world for you so that when you find yourself in trials of many kinds, you can look to our Savior, Jesus, in order to help you through. The happiness you step into once you’ve endured through a season of pain is a sweeter kind of happiness one would not experience had they picked the easy way out.

I don’t want you to be in pursuit of happiness, I want you to be on a voyage of self discovery. I hope you go to spaces and places where God uses you to help others and reveals more of who He created you to be in the process. I pray that every morning when you rise, you simply want the love of Jesus. The Word says that joy comes in the morning and I hope that even in your darkest days, you fight for that joy. I hope that you remember that you are the son of Jeremy Aaron and Ciara Nicole Weese which means you will always have an overflowing well of love and support in your corner. Stand for Truth when truth is a forgotten notion. Display kindness when selfishness is being seen at the forefront. Spread love when everyone else spews hate. Show respect even when you have every right not to.

Fight the good fight and never give up. Strive for your dreams and when you fall short, pick yourself up, and keep going. When facing decisions, don’t always make the choice that leaves you happy in the moment. Sometimes the happiness of today can bring you pain and hardship tomorrow. Grow in wisdom so you can discern when those choices arise. Look for the curve and swing for the fences. You’ll eventually knock one out of the park and when you do, I’ll be there smiling and cheering as you round the bases. I love you Asher Sage. Forever, always, and then some.


Your Mom

For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope. May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had. Romans 15:4-5